One of the soon-to-be fathers shared how overwhelmed he was at making things for the baby while all his girlfriends spend more of their money.
The 23-year-old said that whenever he would spend more on his girlfriend than necessary, he claimed that he was insensitive.
“It was an unplanned pregnancy but still a pregnancy,” she started on Reddit.
“We found out in January and I’ve been planning the game ever since.
“I am passionate and I love my girlfriend so I am willing to do whatever it takes to keep us all comfortable and happy.
“I work full time as a mechanic. I work six days a week, eleven and a half hours a day, and she works six days a week.
“She and I have talked a lot about spending unnecessarily and saving as much as possible so that we are well equipped for our baby when he arrives.
“So every week half of my salary goes into savings and the rest is used for bills and necessities like gas and groceries.”
“She sees that I am overwhelmed and that I am emphasizing the money side of things,” he continued.
“And he tells me, ‘Putting pressure on him won’t do any good.’
“Of course, I agree with her, but she’s not bothering or preparing at all.
“She is still shopping and spending hundreds of dollars on clothes and fast food that we do not need yet.
“Every time I show her that we need to be a team and work together on costs and savings, she gets angry with me and acts as if I scolded her.
“The bottom line is that I seem to be the only person who is contributing to our future.
“She looks like she’s having a baby. It’s not a big deal.”
“How can I make him realize the reality of the situation?”
“It doesn’t matter what I say, if she doesn’t like to hear it, I’m ‘mean’ or ‘numb.’
“I’m basically worried that I’m going to end up in a relationship with the woman who gave birth to my child as a single parent.
“I do not know how to deal with it. I have tried to be patient, I have tried to talk to her calmly, and I have tried hard to love.
“But everything I do is not working and he is no longer on the same page with me.
“I think it’s pointless to talk about it all and it ultimately worries me about the future.”
The majority of commentators agreed that he was indeed in a bond and offered his suggestions.
One person wrote: “Maybe you should sit down together and try to budget.
“Show him how much you’re earning, what you’re spending on bills, and how much you’re saving. And ask him to show you his finances as well.”
Another said: “Perhaps, what needs to happen is that you both need to be willing to compromise and work together more effectively.
“Couples counseling can actually help in this situation.”
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